Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent

Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent Author Grace Lebow
ISBN-10 9780062111968
Year 2011-08-02
Pages 224
Language en
Publisher Harper Collins
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Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.

Children of the Aging Self Absorbed

Children of the Aging Self Absorbed Author Nina W Brown
ISBN-10 9781626252066
Year 2015-09-01
Pages 200
Language en
Publisher New Harbinger Publications
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Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.

Parent to Child the Guide

Parent to Child the Guide Author Natalie Bandlow
ISBN-10 9780595385874
Year 2006-02-01
Pages 236
Language en
Publisher iUniverse
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This guide provides parens with an oppotunity to chronicle their own personal history and past experiences as well as the history and experiences of their child's life in a direct, loving, and supportive way. Don't wait - let Parent To Child : The Guide assist you in writing the legacy you want and need to leave for your chldren ... just in case.

The Boomer s Guide to Aging Parents

The Boomer s Guide to Aging Parents Author Carolyn L. Rosenblatt
ISBN-10 9780578007113
Year 2009-02
Pages 268
Language en
Publisher Lulu.com
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Carolyn L. Rosenblatt is a registered nurse and an attorney with over 40 years of combined experience. She has compiled her 9 volume series into this Complete Guide. It touches on dangerous older drivers, choosing home care workers and nursing homes, understanding assisted living, the specifics of handling money for aging parents, ways to manage sibling conflicts about elders, advice from a lawyer about how to choose a lawyer when your parent needs one, and knowing how a care manager can help you.

Mom Minus Dad The Essential Resource Guide for Busy Adults with a Newly Widowed Parent

Mom Minus Dad  The Essential Resource Guide for Busy Adults with a Newly Widowed Parent Author Jamieson Haverkampf
ISBN-10 9781934953204
Year 2008-05-09
Pages
Language en
Publisher Blooming Women Press LLC
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Mom Minus Dad is the only resource guide available with more than 500 resources for adults who lose a parent and need to assist a newly widowed parent. The book provides readers with practical advice on ten major parent loss topics along with more than 500 valuable and time-saving resources including Web sites, companies, government resources, U.S. laws, books, and nonprofit organizations to assist the approximately twelve million sons and daughters who lose a parent every year. Each section provides online and book resources and simple practical solutions to common problems - from finding affordable counseling to building new budgets for the widowed parent to managing changing family dynamics. Each chapter reveals ideas, relevant insights from the author's personal experience, questions to consider, and additional resources to find specific assistance. The author of Mom Minus Dad gleaned intimate knowledge of balancing her own life with a newly widowed parent. Ms. Haverkampf assisted her fifty-six-year-old widowed mother in Virginia, while still running her real estate business in California, after the early unpredicted loss of her father to cancer. In her groundbreaking book, Haverkampf shares how she and her sister-both in their early thirties-found success and managed struggles during their journey after their father's death. This is a reference guide grievers will refer to during the year after loss and years beyond.

Family Disintegration

Family Disintegration Author Anton Purcell
ISBN-10 1590330366
Year 2002
Pages 250
Language en
Publisher Nova Publishers
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The contemporary family is being distracted, disturbed and distraught by societal pressures from every direction. The nuclear family concept, believed crucial to child rearing, is becoming passe according to census data. Or has the wave of disruption to families crested? It is hoped that this bibliography will serve as a useful tool to researchers seeking further information on families and the pressures being exerted upon them in the 21st century.

Caring for Your Aging Parents

Caring for Your Aging Parents Author Raeann Berman
ISBN-10 9781402224058
Year 2009-05-01
Pages 256
Language en
Publisher Sourcebooks, Inc.
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The fastest-growing segment of our population is people 85 and older, and many of them are now cared for by their children. This comforting and poignant guide bridges the gap between elderly parents and the adult children who care for them, with trusted answers to questions most asked by caregivers in this challenging situation. Covering health, finances, living arrangements, communication, and emotional struggles, Caring for Your Aging Parents offers caring, professional advice for the increasingly difficult decisions that caregivers face, including: Making the right choice between home care and assisted living Coping with memory-loss and dementia Expressing care and concern without sending mixed messages Counteracting negative behavior Encouraging other family members to help with caregiving Managing stress and taking care of yourself With a wealth of resources and reassuring answers, Caring for Your Aging Parents helps caregivers foster a loving, cooperative relationship with their parents in this new chapter of their life.

Getting Old Without Getting Anxious

Getting Old Without Getting Anxious Author Peter Rabins
ISBN-10 9781440628139
Year 2006-03-16
Pages 272
Language en
Publisher Penguin
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Informative and full of hope, Getting Old Without GettingAnxious assists older people and their caregivers in overcoming one of the more crippling and misunderstood human afflictions: anxiety. Geriatric psychiatrist and bestselling author of The 36-Hour Day Dr. Peter V. Rabins explains how the many changes that occur as a person ages can trigger severe andlife-altering anxiety, often destroying lives. This valuable guide will help readers to: - learn how late-life anxiety differs from anxiety in younger people;- identify the disorder a loved one may have and its causes; and- treat the affliction with the best remedy or combination of options available. Anxiety is often dismissed as simply a by-product of old age. Yet Dr. Rabins shows that experiencing life as an older person does not mean living in fear, and he provides the tools to help people break free from the debilitating grasp of their disorders. Stories from patients will encourage and motivate both those suffering from mental illness and their caregivers.

Precious Days Practical Love

Precious Days   Practical Love Author James Taylor
ISBN-10 9781770643093
Year
Pages 224
Language en
Publisher Wood Lake Publishing Inc.
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When one of our parents needs care, the relationship that we have known all of our lives turns upside-down. Suddenly we are responsible for the woman who read us bedtime stories, or for the man who walked us to school. Caring for an aging parent involves more than finding a care facility or dealing with legal and financial matters. It means feeling the frustration of always being "on call" if you live close by, or feeling helpless and guilty because you live far away and can do relatively little. It means riding the emotional roller coaster of having your roles reversed. It's about the pain of being unable to change the inevitable, but of having an inner compulsion to do what you can to make those final weeks or years as gentle as possible. It's about continuing to love, in spite of everything, until the very end...and beyond. Precious Days & Practical Love will help children of aging parents make the final months or years among the best experiences they'll have to remember. and it will help counsellors understand the joys and challenges families may face.

Lesbian Family Life Like the Fingers of a Hand

Lesbian Family Life  Like the Fingers of a Hand Author Valory Mitchell
ISBN-10 9781317992196
Year 2013-09-13
Pages 208
Language en
Publisher Routledge
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In this book, an array of approaches - first person and theoretical accounts, clinical understandings, qualitative and quantitative research - are brought to bear on controversial or under-discussed topics in lesbian family life. From conception all the way to care for elderly parents, this book takes a fresh look at lesbian family relationships. Topics include: butch/femme couples, infidelity, the psychological meaning of family for lesbians, age-discrepant couples, lesbian nuns as family, Listservs as family, intentional family for aging women, women raising sons, mothers who come out late in life, mothers and children in situations of domestic violence, lack of support for lesbian domestic violence survivors, death of a partner, psychological issues in the use of sperm donors or surrogates, and middle-aged lesbians caring for homophobic elderly parents. Some authors use self psychology and Jungian psychology to describe aspects of family life. The richness and diversity of topics makes it a text on "lesbian lives". Therapists and academics from throughout the U.S. have contributed to this collection. Many lesbian women, as well as teachers (it can be a text) and mental health professionals who work with children, families, couples and elderly will find useful material here. This book was published as a special issue of the Journal of Lesbian Studies.

Homeward Bound

Homeward Bound Author Amy Ziettlow
ISBN-10 9780190261092
Year 2017-04-10
Pages 240
Language en
Publisher Oxford University Press
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Homeward Bound shows that as family structure becomes more complex, so too does elder care, and existing institutions and legal approaches are not prepared to handle those complexities. As 79 million American Baby Boomers approach old age, their diverse family structures mean the burden of care will fall on a different cast of family members than in the past. Our current approaches are based on an outdated caregiving model that presumes life-long connection between the parents and offspring, with the existence of high internal norm cohesion among family members providing a valuable safety net for caregiving. Single parent and remarried parent-led families are far more complicated, fragile, and point to the need for increased formal support from the religious, medical, legal, and public policy communities. We base our analysis on in-depth, qualitative interviews with surviving grown children and stepchildren whose mother, father, stepparent, or ex-stepparent died. Their stories illustrate the profound ways that the caregiving, mourning, and inheritance process has changed in ways not adequately reflected in formal legal, medical, and religious tools. The solutions center on awareness and preparation: providing more support for individual planning for incapacity and death and, even more importantly, creating legal, political, and social planning for the "graying of America" at a time of increasingly complex familial ties.

The Alzheimer s Family Helping Caregivers Cope

The Alzheimer s Family  Helping Caregivers Cope Author Robert B. Santulli
ISBN-10 9780393707670
Year 2011-10-31
Pages 256
Language en
Publisher W. W. Norton & Company
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Responding to families’ questions and fears with compassion. Typically the patient—and his or her course of treatment—are the natural focal points when it comes to Alzheimer’s disease (AD). But Alzheimer’s is an equally debilitating illness for family members and caregivers who must come to terms with its far-reaching emotional and physical burdens. In this handbook, clinicians are taught how to navigate the many interpersonal issues at the heart of AD—that is, how to work with the families and friends of the patient. Santulli addresses everything from how to respond compassionately to their likely questions and concerns, how to clearly explain symptoms and risk factors, when to suggest consultation with a geriatric specialist, and how to sensitively discuss issues of long-term treatment and care.

Cruising through Caregiving

Cruising through Caregiving Author Jennifer L. FitzPatrick
ISBN-10 9781626343207
Year 2016-09-27
Pages 344
Language en
Publisher Greenleaf Book Group
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Caregiving is no vacation, but you can cruise more smoothly through it! If you’re facing the daunting reality that you’re about to become a caregiver—whether you planned for it or not—Cruising through Caregiving is the down-to-earth and authoritative answer you need. Jennifer FitzPatrick has been through nearly every possible scenario on the caregiving spectrum, both professionally and personally, and she expertly shows you how to be a responsible, loving caregiver without being overcome by guilt, exhaustion, or worry. It doesn’t matter whether you have advantages such as money or an extended family. You don’t have to passively just let things happen. No matter your particular situation, FitzPatrick has a practical and thoughtful solution to deal with it. She’ll help you discover and harness powers you don’t even know you have—from getting other family members to participate in caregiving to navigating a loved one’s finances, living setting, or declining physical and mental health conditions. ​Advice and resources from FitzPatrick and twenty-four other professionals show how to give your loved one the best quality of life possible without sacrificing your own life, health, career, relationships, or financial stability.